Showing posts with label serving others. Show all posts
Showing posts with label serving others. Show all posts

Monday, August 11, 2014

Overcoming 2014

After Friday's post on Becoming 2014, my next logical post should be on leaps forward and triumphant adventures, but this post is not about those, it's about fear, more specifically, overcoming fear. Fear is so heavy and crippling. I was e-x-t-r-e-m-e-l-y afraid to attend my first conference, and that may seem so silly to many of you, but I think that some of you, may wholly understand. It's nothing new for me. I first experienced this fear when I went off to college, where some days it was so overwhelming that I could not even attempt to make it to class. Sometimes that one day would turn into three, and yes, it was very hard to keep my grades up not attending classes. I couldn't grasp what I was afraid of, but I knew that I was afraid. 

Then one day, twenty three years ago, I met the most kind and caring man, and we were married. We had children and I became a stay at home mom, and eventually began homeschooling our children. Intentionally or not, my world became smaller and very easy to control. Fast forward to now and our children are older and I want to explore my passions, you know, what I want to be when I grow up. And guess what? That fear that I buried so long ago- it's still there. It didn't go anywhere. It's just been in hibernation.  

Last Friday evening, was my first night at Becoming 2014 in the smokey topped mountains of North Carolina. At 6:15 p.m., I was supposed to attend the welcome meeting. I did not. I was so overcome with fear, I couldn't leave my room. Instead I buried myself in a scrumptious piece of key lime pie. You'd do the same, right? Then, I began to pray and wonder. I wondered how all of the women here had managed to get to the welcome meeting when I didn't. I wondered if I was the only woman here paralyzed by fear. In this whole huge conference center, was I the only one in my room? Prayer led me to reflect upon a reply I'd received from another blogger. I had commented on a post by Edie on her blog Life In Grace {she's blogging royalty y'all and she just happened to be speaking at this conference}. I had mentioned to her that I'd be attending the conference and that I was looking forward to hearing her speak, and also that I was quite fearful of my adventure. She replied, "My secret for myself at conferences is I try to not focus on myself and how nervous or fearful I am, but instead, I try to focus on others and see if there’s someone I can be a blessing to. It really helps!!" I prayed over her reply and was so grateful for her advice. She's quite right, you know? I did finally make it out of my room, whew! When I looked outside of my fear, I did begin to see others that were attending the conference alone. I smiled a little more freely, BUT I just couldn't get up enough nerve to say "hi" to Edie when she was done speaking. Small steps of progress people- small steps- I did smile more!

So now that my first weekend away has come to a close, what did I learn? I learned that fear is a huge, vicious monster that steals opportunities. I don't like it at all! I have many new goals for myself at this time in my life and every single one of them requires me to conquer my fear first. So, through baby steps, I will fight this fear and I will slowly but surely prevail. Becoming 2014 is now Overcoming 2014. And, now it's your turn- do you have fears standing in your way? Share y'all- share!

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Tuesday, July 1, 2014

My, How Time Flies

Well, it's officially July! Writing here on this blog, reminds me how fast a month blurs by. Do you notice that?  The older I get, one month just seems to run right into the next. Do you feel that too? Having this blog really helps me to slow things down and appreciate each moment more. I'm so grateful to have this place where I come to write and share. This blog is a true blessing. I've also met some of the sweetest women in the world, fellow blogger's, who journal about their lives too. Yep, such a blessing!

June was mighty busy over here and in case you missed anything, here's some highlights. Come on along with me as I take a little walk down memory lane! 

The first week of June I shared a five part series on How To Survive And Thrive On One Income. This series reached so many folks and I truly hope that it spares someone from making many of the mistakes that I made!

We made a scarecrow for the garden that is working so far{fingers crossed}! We haven't had any critters steal any veggies yet and we have little baby watermelons growing fast out there.....

I learned that sometimes just celebrating with family is ENOUGH in The Hostess With The Mostess, and that it's mega important to take care of our friendships in I'll Get By With A Little Help From My Friends

I opened my Etsy Shop! Still doing my little happy dance over here!!!

I shared our son's new house and our favorite t.v. show. And the most popular post this month, Easy 5 Step Window Box Tutorial. This post was featured at Herbs And Oils Hubs and on Motivation Monday! Wow, so honored!

Whew, and that's just some highlights of June! If you missed anything, feel free to go back and browse! I haven't written in a journal in so many years and I'm truly having the time of my life jotting all these moments down. Thank you all ever so, for allowing me to ramble on weekly about our little life! Have A Blessed Holiday Week Everyone!

Monday, June 23, 2014

I'll Get By With A Little Help From My Friends

Today, let's get real, o.k.? Can we? We're close, right? I've been noticing that too many times, the busy-ness that's life takes us over. It can begin to feel like life is leading us, rather than the other way around. It becomes really easy to lose focus on what's most important. Relationships. When God created man, He knew that it was good and perfect in every way, but He could see that Adam was lonely. Then came Eve. His companion, his lover, his friend. Then it was perfect. Man needs companionship to thrive. We depend on one another for love and comfort and that's just the way God intended. So what are friends? Is friend more of an adjective we use to describe some one's status in our life. I've let life take me over. I've let it's busy-ness fill me and all my time. Our children and our husband are gifts entrusted in our care by God, but our friends have also been placed on our paths by God for reasons that we may or may not understand. Friend should not be an adjective used to describe another person, but an ACTION

It happens to all of us. We get all wrapped up in life and forget what's most important. It's happened to me. Has it happened to you? So here's a friendly reminder to you and me both. Look around at your bestest friends, what might they need and what can you do for them? I think that if we go back to the very beginning and see what all God created, we'll see that we were put here to take care of one another and love on one another. To care for others as we would like to be cared for. Sound familiar? Yeah, Jesus said that. It's so easy to get distracted and our priorities get all out of whack. So, let's make a pact, let's promise that today we will look around at our friend's lives and see if there is any way we can actively improve their life. Pinky swear, k? Then come back and tell me in the comments what you did and how it helped your friend. Let's inspire one another! Let's lift one another up today! So, shoo, get going, take action! I know I'm gonna!

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Monday, June 16, 2014

The Hostess With The Mostess...... NOT!

I have trouble with this. Please tell me that you do too? I LOVE entertaining to the nines. The decorating, the baking, all that stuff is so much fun to me. But sometimes, like this past weekend, I just didn't feel that I could be that hostess with the mostess. I had been so busy the whole week and I was feeling, well, just plum tired. Does that happen to you sometimes? Like your "get up and go", just "got up and went"? Yeah, that was me Friday, and my mom and dad were coming Saturday to celebrate my dad's birthday and Father's Day. I just couldn't muster the party hoopla. So, I got REAL with myself and gave myself permission to get help. Help in the form of food already prepared for me and plastic plates, cups and silverware. 

I even bought an ice cream cake for dessert. Was this really hard for me to do? Shoot yeah! But, why? Why do I feel guilty for not always being "perfectly on"? 

So how did it turn out you ask? It was a perfectly, stress-free afternoon. The food was delicious, the conversation lively and my dad had a wonderful afternoon. That's what it's all about anyway. Right? The point of the day was to share a special moment in time with my parents and for them to enjoy their grand kids. Mission accomplished.

So why the guilt and how can we release ourselves from it's grip? If I had the answer, I'd give it to you right now, but I haven't figured it out yet. What I do know is this, I'm not alone. I'll just bet that there's lots of you out there that feel this pressure too. Help a girl out here, lay some advice on me!

Thursday, May 29, 2014

Hospitality - To - Go

I'm big on hospitality and teaching my little ones to understand the importance of loving on others in our home. Sometimes though, families outside of our home need some hospitality-to-go. What's that you ask? Sometimes, people need a helping hand. They need a meal prepared for them because they are injured or sick. They cannot get their yard work done for whatever reason and we need to head on over and give their grass a good mowing.

As Christians we are called upon to serve those in need. Today was one of those times when we needed to serve another family. I'm so grateful for these opportunities whenever they arise. Our children should know to jump at the chance to help out others in difficult times. It doesn't have to be over the top or crazy extravagant or anything like that. Just so very simple. I promise that your efforts will be greatly appreciated. Today, we whipped up a baked ziti casserole, store bought salad and dressing and rolls for a family that had been involved in a traffic accident. See, I told you it could be simple.

We went out to our flower garden, picked a few posies, placed them in a mason jar with some twine and a little "Get Well Soon" tag. Oh so simple, but hugely appreciated.

It's so easy to get wrapped up in our own lives and become blind to the needs of others. Remember your neighbors and serve them as you would love to be served if your family were ever in need. Remember, hospitality, it's not just for
in our home. Love you all so, and hoping that this week is filled with blessings.
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