Showing posts with label relationships. Show all posts
Showing posts with label relationships. Show all posts

Monday, September 8, 2014

An Open Letter To My Children On Marriage

My Children,

Everyone always wants to know  the secret to a marriage that lasts, a marriage that is rock solid through the ages. They ask as if it's a mystical combination that takes years of pondering and study to grasp. What's so funny is that the secret is so simple. Stay. No matter what- stay. Always stay. It's simple to define but can be VERY hard to practice every day. Now should you stay if there's abuse involved, of course not, but otherwise, stay. Even if you want to run with every fiber of your being because, don't you know, 'the grass DOES always look greener on the other side'. Stay. Stay anyway. Remember the day you took your marriage vows- they weren't just words- they were actions. Actions to stay through thick and thin, ups and downs. Stay. Love them no matter what. Love them when it hurts to love. Love them when they maybe don't deserve to be loved. Love them and stay. This world we live in, has made it commonplace to trade in our spouses on 'better' ones. It's a lie, we're all just humans, flawed. Don't buy into this world's lies. Marry the one you love and trust that your instincts were right. Trust that you loved them because it was meant to be and stay. Life is going to be flawed. There will undoubtedly be sicknesses, maybe addictions, falls from grace, the key is to remember that it's life that's flawed, not your spouse. Our world is filled with sin, and we must live here and sometimes fail here, but help raise up your spouse out of the depths of sin and stay. Don't abandon them because they fell victim to sin. Stay. A forever marriage is a battle each and EVERY day. Don't be sucked into the fairy-tale that if it's not easy, it's not right. If it's not hard, it's not right. 
So my children, what's the secret to a forever marriage, one that lasts through the ages- stay. No matter what- stay. Always stay.

Friday, July 18, 2014

A Fried Green Tomato Kind Of Day

Today is a fun kind of day! It's Friday, which always puts a little spring in my step, and I'm sharing a yummy southern favorite recipe AND a favorite movie of mine. See, told you it was a fun kind of day! The recipe and the movie go hand in hand- I just couldn't talk about one without the other. 

On Friday nights, my husband and I usually watch a movie in bed together. It's just become a little tradition of ours and a special time for us to catch up on the goings on of the week and just enjoy one another's company. We don't have t.v., but we'll snuggle around the laptop in bed and watch something on Netflix or rent from Amazon occasionally. MANY years ago we watched "Fried Green Tomatoes". No, it's not just a side-dish, it's a movie too! If you haven't seen it before, this is your weekend my dear. And, whilst watching the movie, show your hubby how super talented you are and fry up some real fried green tomatoes! Perfect companion to the movie! Did you know that the movie was filmed right here in Georgia? Yep, it was. It was filmed in a tiny town in middle Georgia named Juliette. Click over to this link to learn more about the town, the cafe and the movie. Many of the scenes were filmed at The Whistle Stop Cafe, aptly named for the fact that it sits right next to a train depot. There's not much left from the set, but The Whistle Stop Cafe is still there and just in case you're wondering, they do still sell those mouth-watering fried green tomatoes. If you are ever heading southward through Georgia, take a little pit stop and let them serve you their specialty. It is worth the few moments drive off the highway let me just say from personal experience. The movie is pure southern goodness and I give it two thumbs up. Now, on to the recipe.......

Fried Green Tomatoes

1.   Slice your green tomatoes into thin slices no more than 1/2 thick.

2.  Whisk about 3 eggs and 1/2 cup milk together in a bowl {this will be enough to coat about 5 tomatoes}.

3.  In a separate bowl, place about 2 cups flour. Sprinkle generously with salt and pepper.

4. Pour about 1 inch deep of your regular cooking oil in a skillet and heat to a medium temperature.

5.  Dip your tomato slice into your egg, then into the flour.

6.  Place the slice into your pre-heated skillet. You should be able to get about 3 or 4 slices into your skillet depending upon it's size. Tomato slices should be in a single layer and not touching.

7.  Once first side has browned, flip until both sides are golden. Remove onto a paper towel lined plate to drain and cool slightly.

8.  Serve immediately.

Now, I only have to say that I may or may not have eaten most of these while writing this post. They're just that doggone good y'all! One of those occupational hazards I suppose! Enjoy the movie, the side dish AND the weekend!

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Monday, July 14, 2014

And More Dirty Laundry {Part Two}

I'm baaaaack! Told ya I'd be right here Monday morning! This was an interesting weekend. I've spent a WHOPPING lot of time reflecting on Friday's post. If you happened to miss it, click here, or else you're going to be totally confused today! If you are hoping for lots of sage advice and tried and true conclusions, I'm afraid you'll be leaving quite disappointed. What I do have today, is hope for me and for you and for all our daughters. I've spent the last three days thinking, planning, and figuring on how I can not only learn to love myself right now at this very moment, but how I can also help my daughter learn to love herself unconditionally. Let me tell you, it's REALLY hard. This is new territory for me! I've spent most of the last twenty three years trying to stay just out of the camera's frame because I didn't want to see myself in the photo. Come on now, be honest, you volunteer to be the picture taker too, don't you? That way you don't have to see yourself in the picture. Yep, this is gonna be painful! But, I'm up for the challenge and I shall succeed. I have to, my daughter's counting on me.

So this is how we've started. We've talked, hugged, cried, and laughed a bunch this weekend. That's a good start. We've also eaten lots of chocolate chip pancakes 'cause I figured it couldn't hurt, right? I've researched positive affirmations and bought lots of these:  

They make some of the cutest Post-it notes these days. Don't you just love that little cell phone one? Just perfect for a teen girl! I plan on using these to write positive thoughts and bible verses for both our daughters and sticking them on their bathroom mirrors. By reminding ourselves to change old habits, we can stay positively focused on the task at hand. These are also good for us moms! 

I am also going to be more vigilante at "checking in" with our daughter. I think that as our kids get older and need less from us, we tend to lose touch with them and get busy with other stuff, and intentionally or not, we miss out on their subtle cues. We are also stocking our bedside tables with some new reading materials. I've ordered these on Amazon:

                  Find It Here                 

Don't you just love the cover on that last one? So trendy! These changes that we're making are all fine and dandy, but the MOST important one comes from me. I have to change my dysfunctional view of myself so that I can mirror a positive self image for my daughters. The example that we set, I believe, is the most pro-active move we can make. If I love myself, she'll be more apt to love herself.

I've been so moved by so many beautiful women in my own community and in my "virtual" community. You guys are just the greatest and you've helped me beyond measure with your positive thoughts and "virtual hugs". I'm so, so blessed to have you all! Please share any advice you may have in the comment section! I'm just beginning a long, bumpy path here and I really would welcome some company! Until next time..........

Monday, June 23, 2014

I'll Get By With A Little Help From My Friends

Today, let's get real, o.k.? Can we? We're close, right? I've been noticing that too many times, the busy-ness that's life takes us over. It can begin to feel like life is leading us, rather than the other way around. It becomes really easy to lose focus on what's most important. Relationships. When God created man, He knew that it was good and perfect in every way, but He could see that Adam was lonely. Then came Eve. His companion, his lover, his friend. Then it was perfect. Man needs companionship to thrive. We depend on one another for love and comfort and that's just the way God intended. So what are friends? Is friend more of an adjective we use to describe some one's status in our life. I've let life take me over. I've let it's busy-ness fill me and all my time. Our children and our husband are gifts entrusted in our care by God, but our friends have also been placed on our paths by God for reasons that we may or may not understand. Friend should not be an adjective used to describe another person, but an ACTION

It happens to all of us. We get all wrapped up in life and forget what's most important. It's happened to me. Has it happened to you? So here's a friendly reminder to you and me both. Look around at your bestest friends, what might they need and what can you do for them? I think that if we go back to the very beginning and see what all God created, we'll see that we were put here to take care of one another and love on one another. To care for others as we would like to be cared for. Sound familiar? Yeah, Jesus said that. It's so easy to get distracted and our priorities get all out of whack. So, let's make a pact, let's promise that today we will look around at our friend's lives and see if there is any way we can actively improve their life. Pinky swear, k? Then come back and tell me in the comments what you did and how it helped your friend. Let's inspire one another! Let's lift one another up today! So, shoo, get going, take action! I know I'm gonna!

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