Showing posts with label friendship. Show all posts
Showing posts with label friendship. Show all posts

Monday, February 13, 2017

Home Again


Well heloooooooooooo! I feel that I've been gone for absolute ever! Is this how the caterpillar feels, when one day, after what must feel like forEVER, he emerges as a butterfly???? Maybe. I don't think I'm so lovely as that, but, well, changed for sure. We all change, don't we? It's most noticeable by those that haven't seen us in quite awhile. Like family that lives so far away and Christmas rolls around, you all get together, and man, those nieces and nephews have sprouted inches it seems. I do feel sort of like that, like I've sprouted inches. I hope that you'll see it too....... and still want to come here and embark on this journey with me from time to time.

You should know that I didn't even visit here myself while I was away. I only stopped by twice since my last post in August, just to change out my Pinterest board in the sidebar. Not even sure why I did that? Guess my desire to 'decorate' got the best of me 😊. Several times since the end of December, I started feeling these little itches to return back here to this familiar place. I'd set out to write but the bubbling twinges of excitement quickly diminished and I decided, nope, not yet. I'm thrilled to say that this time, the little twinges stayed long enough that the thoughts swirled out of my head and into this post. It feels so good to be home again.

I'm ever so grateful to those of you that would check on me during my absence. Some through my e-mail, or my FB page, or Instagram. It meant the world to me, and it's because of you all that I'm finally here, yes, I'm ever so grateful. Since we haven't seen one another in sooooooo long, I have lots to share, so many changes to our little life over here and I'll bet, lots of changes in yours too. But mostly, I can't wait to reach out and share at least a virtual cup of coffee {or two 😉} with you. As women, we desperately need the company of one another. Being the introvert that I am, I forget this, ALOT. I become comfortable being alone. And then one day I realized how much I longed for the time that we spend together here. I desperately want this place to mean something not just to me, but to you too. I hope that I can live up to your expectations and be a friend that is inspiring and thought provoking.

I've missed you so, and it's absolutely wonderful to be back..................  ❤

P.S     If ever I'm away for too long from this little space, you can most likely find me on Instagram. I call it my 'lazy blogger's haven' because I can take pictures with my iPhone, say a couple of lines, and be done with it. IG satisfied my desire to reach out and be social on a much smaller scale. If you'd be interested in hanging out with me over there, just click on the IG pictures in the sidebar and it will magically transport you right over to my IG page. If you click "Follow" when you arrive, we'll be joined at the hip forever 😉

Friday, July 24, 2015

Soooooo.......... This Is New


Matthew lost his beloved hen 'Mrs. Red'. Having free ranging chickens is always risky, especially with bantams like Matt's. They are so compact that even a hawk can swipe one up in an instant. It was a hard learned lesson in loss at such a young age, I wish I could have spared him the sorrow.




A month or so back, we had started talking about getting Matthew some Silkies to raise. We have a small coop in the front yard that we weren't using any longer that would be perfect for a few chickens. If you've never heard of or seen Silkies, you're in for a real treat. They look like little puff balls with feathers all the way down to their toes. The hens have a big pouf on the tippy-top of their heads that remind me of those fancy fascinator hats that the English wear. They are more gentle and friendly by nature and perfect for a little guy wanting to expand his chicken flock.





He's smitten. He's affectionately named one very docile hen 'Little Cotton Ball'. She sits in his lap with not the slightest desire to be anywhere else, completely content with her new buddy. I can already tell, she's going to love sitting by the fireplace this winter. That was a big favorite of 'Mrs. Red'. 



A new friendship has blossomed.




Friday, June 12, 2015

For My Virtual Besties {and some blueberry muffin inspiration}


Just like in regular, everyday life, writing a blog has it's ups and downs. There have been times over the past year when I've thought, I think I'm done, I don't think I have another thing to say, what if I'm empty?  There are times when I'm more vibrant than others and am inspired to tackle big projects and share them here, and times when I'm quite uninspired and feel like I don't have a doggone thing to share. There have been times when I've pondered not having a blog, but something or someone always pushes me to keep going. The thing that propels me the most are all of you. I can't see  you, but I know that you visit and I just adore reading your sweet comments. I know that we suffer the same and feel joy the same. I know that you have low valleys and high peaks just like me, we are different, but still very much alike.



I couldn't be more grateful for you all and even though we can't sit down at the kitchen table and share our thoughts over a cup of coffee and some homemade blueberry muffins, you are my sweet, precious friends nevertheless.

So today, I wanted to say thank you for all of you that show up and read my posts and to all you sweet folks that comment from time to time. Y'all really and truly rock my world. I wanted to send a big ole virtual hug to each and every one of you.......... and since I can't share an actual blueberry muffin with you, I can share my favorite Blueberry Muffin Recipe  just in time for a delicious and fresh weekend breakfast:

Ingredients:
1 3/4 cups all purpose flour
1/4 sugar
2 1/2 tsp. baking powder
3/4 tsp. salt
1 well beaten egg
1 1/4 cups buttermilk
1/3 melted butter
1 cup blueberries

Directions
Mix dry ingredients in a medium sized bowl and set aside. Combine wet ingredients and add all at once to dry ingredients. Stir just until moistened. Gently add 1 cup blueberries. Grease muffin tin and fill 2/3 full. Bake at 400* for 25 minutes.  Makes 12 muffins.


Have a blessed weekend everyone!


Monday, March 23, 2015

Warts And All {embracing imperfection}



I struggle to find a balance between perfection and imperfection. Do you sometimes too? Do you not have friends over because your house isn't clean enough or because you don't like the peeling wallpaper in the guest bathroom or the chewed up table leg {curses on your dog}. What would people think? Would they leave your house murmuring and mumbling about 'why in the world would she invite us over before tidying up that mess?'. You promise yourself that as soon as you get new wallpaper or repair that table leg or scrub those floors, that then, then, you'll have people over.




I come to you several times a week and talk about all kinds of stuff, lots of intentional living stuff, embracing stuff, living in the moment stuff, hospitality stuff, but you know what, I struggle too. I feel like I can't have folks come over and hang out because, it's not all clean enough. Whoa. That's hypocritical.


When I'm in this depression season of mine, life as I know it comes to a screeching halt. I'm sitting amongst a jar filled with valentine's candy, and a chalkboard that says, 'In the meadow we can build a snowman', not an Easter bunny or daffodil in sight. So I go into lock-down. No one's coming over until I get things back on track, translation, p-e-r-f-e-c-t. Really????? That's ridiculous. You know what that means? It means that I think very little of my friends. It means that I don't have any value for myself either. It means that I think they are only coming over for some type of 'sensory experience', only coming to oooooh and ahhhhh at my seasonal change-ups and to marvel at my cleaning skills. 


That's not intentional living, that's not living at all. If you find yourself right where I am, embrace imperfection. How quickly I forget, it's only March and I hardly remember my word for the year, EMBRACE.  Love on people right where you are and  right where they are. I can totally promise you that if they come over in the midst of your mess and love you, they are true friends, if they are murmuring on their way out the door, you might want to re-evaluate that friendship.



So all these photos...... real life, right now, sometimes messy, sometimes dysfunctional, totally imperfect, just like me. And in case you are wondering, I am having friends over this week in the midst of it all, it's me, it's my life right now, and I know that my friends love me and all my imperfections, it's way past time for me to trust and love them too. I'm learning to embrace imperfection,  care to join me?

Sunday, January 18, 2015

Getting To Know You {and me}



As I'm quickly approaching my one year 'blogiversary", it's occurred
to me that I've never really even properly introduced myself to you. I thought it would be fun to share some facts about myself that you may not know. By the end, you'll know waaaaay more about me than you ever wanted- wink, wink!!

  • I absolutely, positively hated school even though I got good grades
  • I dreamed of being a hairdresser, then a singer and then just rich
  • I had a guardian angel experience when I was nine {cue the theme song from The X-Files} 
  • I am a serious INTROVERT
  • I have fought depression most of my life
  • I've been married 23 years 
  • I'm an only child married to the youngest of ten {whoa, right?}
  • I didn't think that being an only child was all that cool- so my answer was to have FOUR awesome children!
  • We currently have five house dogs { I know, I know...........}
  • I only completed 3 years of college { school was always rough for me- the INTROVERT thing}
  • Food addiction: Mexican torta and fries. What? You don't know what that is?? {Sorry, I may have just contributed to your new addiction}
  • During my last pregnancy, I developed pre-eclampsia at 26 weeks and was hospitalized until Matthew was born at 29 weeks
  • This should be an obvious one........ I developed severe postpartum depression after Matthew was born {duh, right?}
  • We've homeschooled for 16 years
  • My oldest child is 22 , then 14, then 12, then 7.  {two boys, two girls}
  • My favorite quiet time splurge, a nap 
  • I'm totally smitten with oil cloth
  • I'm obsessed with campers, so much so, that when driving ANYWHERE whenever we pass one, Matthew YELLS, "camper mommy"
  • I have a tiny but growing quilt collection
  • My favorite date night with my hubby- Chinese and a movie IN bed {thanks Jessica!}

Whoa, more than you wanted to know right? Your turn! I'd love for you to share a tidbit or two about yourself. Go.............

Friday, October 31, 2014

Home And Friendship



I was the wallflower during my school years, the LAST one picked for every team sport, the awkward one that just didn't ever seem to have the right words to say. But as I'm doing a downward slide through my forties and quickly approaching fifty, God has been so good to me in the friendship department, that I don't even feel worthy enough to deserve the women that He's so graciously placed in my path. They are growing me, inspiring me, and comforting me in the most inconspicuous ways. 

Just this week, a precious friend dropped by with a gift for me. A gift that she couldn't possibly have known how badly I've wanted. We had never talked about it before, but yet, there she stood with this gift in hand. We call this "a God thing" around here, and just leave it at that.



As a homeschooling mom, I'm always buying books for my kids, but usually I just dream about the books I'd love to have. I go about filling up my wishlist on Amazon with all my dream books hoping that one day I'll need just one more item to make their $35.00 free shipping fee, but alas, I always have waaaaay more in my cart than funds in the bank, so my wishlist gets pushed to the side with a sigh. 



I've wanted Myquillyn's book since it came out during the summer. The Nester was one of the very first blogs I discovered years back and she was a huuuuuuge inspiration for me. 



At that time she was a smaller blogger living in a rental house- that really spoke to me. She opened my eyes to the fact that just because I was in a rental, I didn't have to put my decorating desires on hold. She showed me that I could re-do and paint boocoodles of items to lighten and brighten our spaces.


If it were not for Myquillyn, The Little Farm Diary Blog, would not exist and I'd be one sad and depressed puppy. I love all the progress we've made right here in our little rental! I owe her so much. 



I encourage you to not feel trapped if you have found yourself renting your current home. I also encourage you to order "The Nesting Place" for yourself. I'm so grateful to have this book and to be even further encouraged by The Nester. 



So on this chilly fall morning, I find myself curled up with a cup of hot tea and a very grateful heart for a friend that blessed me with a much wanted gift. Hoping that blessings are right around the corner for you too..........


Monday, October 27, 2014

The Little Farm Retreat {renewing the spirits of women}

So, this just happened.........

and it was a dream come true! I want to encourage you to identify your passion...... right now, don't put it off. Once you've pinned it down, don't wait, pursue this passion! As women, we spend every day giving to so many people both in our homes and outside. All this giving can leave us totally depleted and unless you've taken the time to identify your passion and pursue it, you are running the risk of burnout. Physically and mentally, you must be renewed! 




My dream was to host a retreat for women where they could come and be restored and renewed. I DID it! We crafted, chatted, giggled, ate lots of yummies around the fire and bathed in a renewing spirit. It was everything I had dreamed of. The women that attended, with all their unique gifts, fed me in ways that only other women can. They each brought different personalities and talents to the evening and it was an awe inspiring mix





I encourage you to STOP and THINK what it is that makes you joyful and then put one foot in front of the other and step toward your passion. The next Little Farm Retreat will be a Christmas retreat and it will take place on December 6th, so if you are in the area, send me your info and I'll get you registered {more info about registration will be here on the blog in mid-November}. Have a passion-filled week y'all!

Monday, July 14, 2014

And More Dirty Laundry {Part Two}





I'm baaaaack! Told ya I'd be right here Monday morning! This was an interesting weekend. I've spent a WHOPPING lot of time reflecting on Friday's post. If you happened to miss it, click here, or else you're going to be totally confused today! If you are hoping for lots of sage advice and tried and true conclusions, I'm afraid you'll be leaving quite disappointed. What I do have today, is hope for me and for you and for all our daughters. I've spent the last three days thinking, planning, and figuring on how I can not only learn to love myself right now at this very moment, but how I can also help my daughter learn to love herself unconditionally. Let me tell you, it's REALLY hard. This is new territory for me! I've spent most of the last twenty three years trying to stay just out of the camera's frame because I didn't want to see myself in the photo. Come on now, be honest, you volunteer to be the picture taker too, don't you? That way you don't have to see yourself in the picture. Yep, this is gonna be painful! But, I'm up for the challenge and I shall succeed. I have to, my daughter's counting on me.

So this is how we've started. We've talked, hugged, cried, and laughed a bunch this weekend. That's a good start. We've also eaten lots of chocolate chip pancakes 'cause I figured it couldn't hurt, right? I've researched positive affirmations and bought lots of these:  







They make some of the cutest Post-it notes these days. Don't you just love that little cell phone one? Just perfect for a teen girl! I plan on using these to write positive thoughts and bible verses for both our daughters and sticking them on their bathroom mirrors. By reminding ourselves to change old habits, we can stay positively focused on the task at hand. These are also good for us moms! 


I am also going to be more vigilante at "checking in" with our daughter. I think that as our kids get older and need less from us, we tend to lose touch with them and get busy with other stuff, and intentionally or not, we miss out on their subtle cues. We are also stocking our bedside tables with some new reading materials. I've ordered these on Amazon:




                  Find It Here                 



Don't you just love the cover on that last one? So trendy! These changes that we're making are all fine and dandy, but the MOST important one comes from me. I have to change my dysfunctional view of myself so that I can mirror a positive self image for my daughters. The example that we set, I believe, is the most pro-active move we can make. If I love myself, she'll be more apt to love herself.

I've been so moved by so many beautiful women in my own community and in my "virtual" community. You guys are just the greatest and you've helped me beyond measure with your positive thoughts and "virtual hugs". I'm so, so blessed to have you all! Please share any advice you may have in the comment section! I'm just beginning a long, bumpy path here and I really would welcome some company! Until next time..........
XOXOXO



Wednesday, July 9, 2014

Puttin' The Brakes On Summer



If you have been reading this blog for long, you may have caught a whiff of my secret. I suffer from depression. No one really wants to talk about it, because, it's, well, depressing. Mine is always worse during the winter months. But this last winter, whoa, it was h-o-r-r-i-b-l-e! If you suffer from depression too, God bless you! It is so debilitating and because others can't see it, then they tend to disregard it as something you can control. Take a shower, exercise, see a doctor, read the bible more, do more for others.......the advice is endless! They may mean well, but if they don't live with depression, they have no idea how hard it is and that you can't just "shake it off". This past winter, I felt like I was drowning and I'm not exaggerating when I say I barely made it to spring sane. On top of trying to tread water all those dark months, I'm a stay-at-home, homeschooling mom. It's tough.



So why write about it now? I've noticed that for the first time, I'm soaking up summer like I'm just parched. I can't get enough of it's warmth and light. I've ALWAYS looked forward to fall, but not this year. I can feel my heels digging into the soil as my body puts the brakes on summer coming to an end. I look at the calendar with dread as June flew by and now July following quickly behind. I'm passing through each day of summer kicking and screaming- NO, please don't gooooooo! I feel my anxiousness as time seems to be whizzing by.



So why am I telling y'all about my secret? Because I know that I'm not alone in my depression and fear and you're not alone either. There's safety in numbers and if we can come together and share our secrets and fears, they become smaller some how and easier to defeat. Transparency is the devil's enemy. If we feel alone and desperate, we are far from God's desires for us. 



I have quite a passion for writing here on this blog and sharing with y'all, but it's so much more fun when it's not a one sided conversation. If you suffer from depression, please feel free to share in the comment section below, and I'm quite sure that when we come together we will find strength. We can help one another and maybe this winter will not be as dark as the last one. Thanks for stopping by and remember that you are not alone in your sufferings!


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Tuesday, July 1, 2014

My, How Time Flies


Well, it's officially July! Writing here on this blog, reminds me how fast a month blurs by. Do you notice that?  The older I get, one month just seems to run right into the next. Do you feel that too? Having this blog really helps me to slow things down and appreciate each moment more. I'm so grateful to have this place where I come to write and share. This blog is a true blessing. I've also met some of the sweetest women in the world, fellow blogger's, who journal about their lives too. Yep, such a blessing!

June was mighty busy over here and in case you missed anything, here's some highlights. Come on along with me as I take a little walk down memory lane! 

The first week of June I shared a five part series on How To Survive And Thrive On One Income. This series reached so many folks and I truly hope that it spares someone from making many of the mistakes that I made!



We made a scarecrow for the garden that is working so far{fingers crossed}! We haven't had any critters steal any veggies yet and we have little baby watermelons growing fast out there.....



I learned that sometimes just celebrating with family is ENOUGH in The Hostess With The Mostess, and that it's mega important to take care of our friendships in I'll Get By With A Little Help From My Friends

I opened my Etsy Shop! Still doing my little happy dance over here!!!


I shared our son's new house and our favorite t.v. show. And the most popular post this month, Easy 5 Step Window Box Tutorial. This post was featured at Herbs And Oils Hubs and on Motivation Monday! Wow, so honored!

  
Whew, and that's just some highlights of June! If you missed anything, feel free to go back and browse! I haven't written in a journal in so many years and I'm truly having the time of my life jotting all these moments down. Thank you all ever so, for allowing me to ramble on weekly about our little life! Have A Blessed Holiday Week Everyone!
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