Monday, March 2, 2015

When The Unthinkable Happens


All of our lives have their ups and downs. It's just the way it goes and we expect it to be that way. But sometimes, events happen that are way beyond what we've come to expect as normal. Events too huge to even comprehend. 

Last week, in our little community, a tragedy. Innocent lives were lost and innocent folks were injured. It never sits well when life shifts so violently and unexpectedly. It's just un-natural. It shook our whole community to it's core. Small town living has it's advantages and one of those is low crime rates, but even small towns aren't completely immune to violence. 

I began thinking of one of the times that our pastor had said that a life shaking event is not necessarily about the main players. Sometimes, it may have very little to do with them at all. A tragedy can be a catalyst, changing many people's paths. It does sound really cruel, but I believe it might just be a part of God's bigger plan. Something so massive, we couldn't possibly understand. A ripple effect.



I have always despised being in pictures. I grew up around women that spent their whole life saying, "oh honey, I hope you're not getting me in that picture". Maybe that colored my view a little, paired with the fact that I'm not the 'perfect weight' I wish I was, and that has kept me behind the camera way more than in front. Beyond ridiculous, I know.  

I couldn't help but notice that one of the folks that lost their life last week in our little town, had so many precious photos of her and her sweet daughters. Slam........... hit me hard, right in the face. Tragedies happen, life can end unexpectedly, and I have so few moments captured with my kids, so much time has passed and opportunities have been missed, all because of my ridiculousness.




So last week, my girls and I went for a couple of days to see 'Wicked' in Atlanta. Totally awesome by the way, but as we finished loading our luggage into the car at checkout, I went and sat in the car ready to go. The girls were behind the car doing what girls do best, photographing each other and the gorgeous scenery of the city. As I was sitting there, it hit me, what the heck am I doing sitting here in the car, duh, right? I jumped out, warp speed and got in the pictures. 

Life is short and we don't get re-dos. Life can end in a moment, do we like what we're leaving behind? What would our kids have at that moment that we were suddenly gone? 

So you may have guessed it, I'm changing my legacy one photo at a time.

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18 comments:

  1. What a great reminder to seize the moment with that precious family of ours. Thanks friend!

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    1. Thanks for visiting today Danielle! Hope you are feeling better!

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  2. What you said hits me too. I'm the one behind the camera, not in fromt bc of the same reasons...not the perfect weight or look the best....we have joked that it something happens to us, no one will know who the Mama is....but I know that it really isn't funny....so I'm going to try to change here one photo at a time, too....thanks for the post

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  3. Great post! I'm taking it to heart.

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  4. Good for you! It's the simple moments that are most precious.
    Brenda

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  5. I read a post similar to this some time ago and it, too, got me thinking about whether I wanted to one day leave this world without pictures of me for my family, my child(ren). Ever since then, I get pretty pointed about there being at least one picture with me in it enjoying our family activities!

    I do think it's so very important to have a pictorial legacy, as well as the memories, the words, and the love. :)

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  6. So well said, Amy. I try to remember that every day, but in between carpooling, laundry and chores, sometimes, I forget. Thanks for the reminder...and Wicked, huh? That is one of our favorite shows! ;)

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  7. Good for you! You will look at them one day and be sooooo thankful you have it!

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  8. standing and appluading.. you are so dang pretty and your sweet spirit shows thru!!! show that off as much as possible.

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  9. I totally understand. I've been avoiding the camera for a long time and just recently I started getting in the pictures, because I couldn't imagine my kids never having a picture of me older than 30. Good for you!

    Oh and that banana bread recipe.... pinned that. YUM!

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  10. Absolutely and amen. The unthinkable has happened to me, too. I lost my oldest son suddenly and unexpectedly 5-1/2 years ago. He was only 21. Enjoy every moment with your girls - and take lots of photos of them AND yourself!

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    1. Melanie, my heart sunk when I read your comment! I'm so sorry for your loss. We have a 22 year old son, and I couldn't even imagine loosing a child. My prayers are with you!

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  11. Amy, so sorry to hear about the terrible loss. Life is so uncertain.We do not know what tomorrow , will hold.
    You really made me think, I am SO anti-photograph me.. [My thought was ..who wants to look at a fat 60 yr old.ha]
    But, recently I was looking at some photo albums, and during the holidays.. I snap so many photos of kids / grandkids, and my hubby...But , I am no where in them..it is almost like. I wasn't even there for the holidays.. So sad..and this is for years.. I can't go back and put myself in them.. But, I am trying my best to improve this ..
    SO proud you are going to do it too..

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    1. It's awful isn't it Judy? I can remember looking at old videos when our 22 year old was little, always my husband and son in the video, I was always doing the filming. When I look back, it's like my husband was a single dad raising him alone. Yes, so sad! Glad to have you on this journey with me!

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  12. I'm so sorry to hear your community has been shaken by violence. It's so true though, tragedies definitely have a way of helping us sort out our priorities. I love these pictures of you with your girls (you're all so beautiful)!

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  13. Memories and photos are all that will be left.
    So, capture all the moments now!

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    1. This is so awesome! I LOVE your visits! Keep 'em comin'!

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