Monday, March 23, 2015

Warts And All {embracing imperfection}



I struggle to find a balance between perfection and imperfection. Do you sometimes too? Do you not have friends over because your house isn't clean enough or because you don't like the peeling wallpaper in the guest bathroom or the chewed up table leg {curses on your dog}. What would people think? Would they leave your house murmuring and mumbling about 'why in the world would she invite us over before tidying up that mess?'. You promise yourself that as soon as you get new wallpaper or repair that table leg or scrub those floors, that then, then, you'll have people over.




I come to you several times a week and talk about all kinds of stuff, lots of intentional living stuff, embracing stuff, living in the moment stuff, hospitality stuff, but you know what, I struggle too. I feel like I can't have folks come over and hang out because, it's not all clean enough. Whoa. That's hypocritical.


When I'm in this depression season of mine, life as I know it comes to a screeching halt. I'm sitting amongst a jar filled with valentine's candy, and a chalkboard that says, 'In the meadow we can build a snowman', not an Easter bunny or daffodil in sight. So I go into lock-down. No one's coming over until I get things back on track, translation, p-e-r-f-e-c-t. Really????? That's ridiculous. You know what that means? It means that I think very little of my friends. It means that I don't have any value for myself either. It means that I think they are only coming over for some type of 'sensory experience', only coming to oooooh and ahhhhh at my seasonal change-ups and to marvel at my cleaning skills. 


That's not intentional living, that's not living at all. If you find yourself right where I am, embrace imperfection. How quickly I forget, it's only March and I hardly remember my word for the year, EMBRACE.  Love on people right where you are and  right where they are. I can totally promise you that if they come over in the midst of your mess and love you, they are true friends, if they are murmuring on their way out the door, you might want to re-evaluate that friendship.



So all these photos...... real life, right now, sometimes messy, sometimes dysfunctional, totally imperfect, just like me. And in case you are wondering, I am having friends over this week in the midst of it all, it's me, it's my life right now, and I know that my friends love me and all my imperfections, it's way past time for me to trust and love them too. I'm learning to embrace imperfection,  care to join me?

12 comments:

  1. When I come to your house it is for fellowship with one of my best friends in the world. The wonderful things you do with your house is just a by-product. I seriously could care less if the house is perfect or messy. I am only there to see you and the kids and share what has been going on in our lives.
    Blessings
    Diane

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  2. And that is why I love you forever and always <3

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  3. I'm so thankful that I found your blog. You have been an inspiration to me this winter. I don't want to say that I'm in depression like you, but I have struggled a lot this winter. and I'm starting to see the light at the end, with the weather getting nice. And maybe I am dealing with it, I'm just not sure. But just wanted to tell you that you have helped me a lot since I found your blog.

    Shelley

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    1. Shelley, the feeling is mutual my dear. I'm so grateful for your visits and comments. In all our seasons, it's so nice to know that you have friends to walk along with you. Yes, spring is near and the fog will lift soon, praise God!

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  4. I used to worry about having the house in perfect condition before inviting someone in. No more! I gave that up years ago when a friend once said her philosophy about the "perfect" house is:, "If you're coming over to see my house, don't bother, because you'll be disappointed. If you're coming over to see me. . .come on in!" It struck a cord with me, and made me lighten up. :)

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  5. You are right on my case here. I don't like having people over if things aren't ALMOST perfect. I don't expect anyone else to have a perfect place but boy! I am hard on myself!!!! I really need to change that way of thinking, I know. I grew up in a terribly messy home...and I was embarrassed to have anyone see it-so I err the other way...NO messes. lol
    Thanks for a great PERFECT post! xo Diana

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  6. So true.....if people just come to your house to see what kind of a housekeeper you are, they need to stay home. My house has never been perfectly clean and it never will be. There are more important things in life than worrying about a dirty house. With working, kids and all the everyday things we have to do, who has time to have a spotless house? Life's too short to worry about things that are not important. We should not worry about what other people think about us. We need to enjoy our life, family and true friends, that's all that really matters.

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  7. Oh yes...You hit it on the nail head.. I am so totally uncomfortable ,when company comes...if the house is not really clean.. And I know that REAL friends..would not care.. it's just me... I am trying to work on it..
    Thank you for sharing such a real topic.. You have such wonderful ideas..Love looking at your blog... both the perfect and the non perfect.. Hugs.

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  8. Amy, may you enjoy the company of your good friends in your home filled with love. And yes, I have been guilty of being hesitant to have people over for fear of being judged. I love my home, so I guess that's all that matters. Take a deep breath, relax and enjoy. <3

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  10. I understand exactly what you mean and I've been there, but I always tell myself "Perfection is impossible. Strive for happy instead" :)

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  11. I enjoy your honesty here...I seem to fight depression during the darker months and my fighting just began a couple weeks ago. Somehow, it takes me by surprise, it reminds me how weak I can become within a couple of days. I struggle to clean my home and connect with others. Both activities would help but it's so hard to get out of bed or get off the couch. I find that always coming back to "thankful" thoughts and much prayer - God helps me...(and blogging is therapy for me too!)

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