Tuesday, February 10, 2015

Where I Find Myself

I've been thinking a lot lately about where I am right now in my life and how I came to be here. We are considering purchasing a 'new to us' car, and I think this decision is bringing up a whole lot of fear for me. If you've been around this blog for a while, you probably know that my husband and I were financial failures {picture crash and burn} for a good part of our marriage. I brought a 'more is better attitude' to the marriage, coupled with a 'neither of us had a clue about finances', and you end up with a 'I think we just lost everything situation'. Once, I would have been mortified to talk about the mess that my life was, but now it's my testimony and it was given to me by God. We can't possibly do any good in this world wearing masks. 



We haven't made any large purchases in a really long time because of the fact that starting over financially is a really long process. It takes lots of intentional acts to repair your financial mess-ups. My husband has taken on the task for many years now to be in charge of our finances and educate himself to ensure that he makes the best choices for our future. Let's just say that he and Dave Ramsey are tight y'all. He reads his books, listens to his on air broadcasts, we've even participated in his Financial Peace Program. 




When you've failed financially, it really changes how you view every purchase. You never could have convinced me years ago that less really is more and that only purchasing what you have the cash for is the way to go. 

I learned really quickly not to listen to what the world says. I learned to tune in to my inner God voice more. I'm still learning the difference between need and want, gosh, that's a hard one. I am feeling so blessed to be more of who He wants me to be. 



This season I'm in right now is filled with blessings I think because I first opened my heart and desired to be filled. I put Him first and the world dead last. I seek Him and need Him. That's the key I guess, an open heart waiting to be poured into. I plan on keeping my heart wide  open. 


" Teach me to do your will, for you are my God; may your good Spirit lead me on level ground. "    Psalm 143:10 


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8 comments:

  1. I so enjoy your openness and being real, it's refreshing. I can understand why a "new" vehicle would be nerve wracking, it always has been for us too. One thing I can tell you is do your research. Research, research, research. We've never owned a brand new car, not even close to new, and only once (early on) in almost 13 years of marriage have we ever had a car payment. Hubby has always researched what kind of vehicle has the best track record and will be the most reliable. He reads forums, looks up statistics, etc. Then once he decides what vehicle will be the best choice for us we start to "research" sales. We wait and we pray and we look and we wait some more and eventually just the right one has always come along. Thank the Lord we've never had any major vehicle problems and all of Hub's research has paid off. We were just talking the other day about how we still can't believe that we were able to get our Toyota mini-van at such a great price when we needed to upgrade to something bigger. We were able to sell our previous vehicle for nearly the same price as the van so we basically broke even on the deal. We've always prayed about our vehicle purchases and the Lord has always been faithful to us. (and let me tell ya, He even cares about the color of the vehicle! :D ) I pray it all works out well for you too.

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    1. Thanks Stephanie for your advice- ALL great by the way! We've had our van for 14 years and it's really part of the family as weird as that may sound! Three of our four kids have been babies in that van. Oh the memories!

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  2. I know how you feel, we became debt free when my son was 2 he is now 21. It was a choice for us to live this way. It also meant we had no credit because we paid cash for everything we did, even building a new house with cash. Sometimes that's just as bad as no credit. We have also pondered the dilemma and decided we had to do what was right for us not what the rest of the world was doing. Great story and I love Dave Ramsey and he's a great teacher.

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    1. Living without a load of debt is really taking the 'road less traveled' isn't it? The headaches, worry and fear that came with too much stuff is mind boggling and I would never want to live that way again! Thanks for stopping by today! So much fun to chat!

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  3. Thank you for being so honest and sharing your wisdom, Amy. I loved it when you said "I learned really quickly not to listen to what the world says." Such a great lesson!

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    1. JoAnne, I wish I could shout it from the rooftops to spare anyone from ever making the same mistakes we did! I shudder to think of all the people heading down the same road we were on- such a shame! Thanks for visiting with me today!

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  4. We have listened to Dave Ramsey for years. I don't think you can go wrong following his advice. Car shopping is stressful though no matter what. I hope you find something that works for you quickly!

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  5. Thank you so much for sharing your story. You are not alone, my family has gone through financial problems, also. It is not fun. I'm sure many more people have and don't want to admit it. Sometimes it can't be helped, loss of a job, sickness, etc. No use hiding it. And it doesn't matter what other people think. We just have to work harder to make things better. And the most important thing, is to keep GOD in our lives. He does answer prayers, maybe not the way we want him to. But, GOD knows what is best for us all. Thanks again. God Bless you and your family!

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