Monday, July 14, 2014

And More Dirty Laundry {Part Two}





I'm baaaaack! Told ya I'd be right here Monday morning! This was an interesting weekend. I've spent a WHOPPING lot of time reflecting on Friday's post. If you happened to miss it, click here, or else you're going to be totally confused today! If you are hoping for lots of sage advice and tried and true conclusions, I'm afraid you'll be leaving quite disappointed. What I do have today, is hope for me and for you and for all our daughters. I've spent the last three days thinking, planning, and figuring on how I can not only learn to love myself right now at this very moment, but how I can also help my daughter learn to love herself unconditionally. Let me tell you, it's REALLY hard. This is new territory for me! I've spent most of the last twenty three years trying to stay just out of the camera's frame because I didn't want to see myself in the photo. Come on now, be honest, you volunteer to be the picture taker too, don't you? That way you don't have to see yourself in the picture. Yep, this is gonna be painful! But, I'm up for the challenge and I shall succeed. I have to, my daughter's counting on me.

So this is how we've started. We've talked, hugged, cried, and laughed a bunch this weekend. That's a good start. We've also eaten lots of chocolate chip pancakes 'cause I figured it couldn't hurt, right? I've researched positive affirmations and bought lots of these:  







They make some of the cutest Post-it notes these days. Don't you just love that little cell phone one? Just perfect for a teen girl! I plan on using these to write positive thoughts and bible verses for both our daughters and sticking them on their bathroom mirrors. By reminding ourselves to change old habits, we can stay positively focused on the task at hand. These are also good for us moms! 


I am also going to be more vigilante at "checking in" with our daughter. I think that as our kids get older and need less from us, we tend to lose touch with them and get busy with other stuff, and intentionally or not, we miss out on their subtle cues. We are also stocking our bedside tables with some new reading materials. I've ordered these on Amazon:




                  Find It Here                 



Don't you just love the cover on that last one? So trendy! These changes that we're making are all fine and dandy, but the MOST important one comes from me. I have to change my dysfunctional view of myself so that I can mirror a positive self image for my daughters. The example that we set, I believe, is the most pro-active move we can make. If I love myself, she'll be more apt to love herself.

I've been so moved by so many beautiful women in my own community and in my "virtual" community. You guys are just the greatest and you've helped me beyond measure with your positive thoughts and "virtual hugs". I'm so, so blessed to have you all! Please share any advice you may have in the comment section! I'm just beginning a long, bumpy path here and I really would welcome some company! Until next time..........
XOXOXO



6 comments:

  1. I think I will be ordering these books for my daughter as well. Being away two weeks is always a great time for reflection and I too had a moment with my daughter on our ride home. It wasn't the same topic, but had to do with me always worried and living in fear. I may be passing my nervous nature down and that's not a good thing, especially being a christian. Thanks for sharing such personal experiences. It makes us all think a little deeper on these touchy subjects. Hugs!

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    1. Being a mom is tough isn't it? The greatest thing is that God has given us grace, so TODAY is a brand new day and we can start over anew! Hugs back!

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  2. Amy,
    Another wonderful post!! I really is hard to love ourselves, isn't it? I am my own worst enemy and critic. I have gotten myself back on track and restarted my Weight Loss Journey to a healthier me once again!! After all, I do want to enjoy those retirement years , right???

    Hugs,
    Deb

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    1. Debbie, my friend, you DO want to enjoy those retirement years! You are such an inspiration to so many! Thanks, as always, for visiting!

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  3. I have added two of these to my Amazon wish list.
    Blessings
    Diane

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    1. I can't wait to start reading ours! Thanks for stopping by, Diane!

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