Thursday, June 5, 2014

How To Survive And Thrive On One Income {Part Four}

This next step is a really important one! If you've missed any of the previous posts, just click on the following links to jump right back to the original post - Part One, Part Two, Part Three. Now, let's talk about number four.
4.  The Importance Of Friends

One of the MOST important parts of your new life is often overlooked. I can't even stress how important this step is to your success. It can actually make or break your new lifestyle. You've got to make some very educated choices and surround yourself with women that have made the same choice as you to stay at home with their children. There are so many big and hugely important changes you have been making to achieve your goal of staying home in order to take care of your husband and children. Friends, seems like a really silly thing to include in how to survive on one income. But remember, the title said survive AND thrive. Your friends are very important to you thriving. Your old working friends can be the cause of your downfall believe it or not. You need to surround yourself with like minded women. Women who have also taken on this challenge of keeping the home. These women will lift you up and provide you with support. Their children will also be your children's social network, especially if you have decided to homeschool your little ones. 

You have to give yourself time to find the joys and high spots in this new life and you can't do that if you are feeling envy that your friends are heading to the beach again and looking at a new house when their old one is just fine. It is going to take you a while to adjust to this new place, so be kind to yourself during the transition. Keep reminding yourself that it's so worth it all and that those old friends might actually be jealous of you being a full-time wife and momma. 

If your children are young, check out other mom's who get together for a pre-school play group. Your church or local library may have more information on groups in your area. If you've also decided to homeschool, there are often many homeschool groups available in your local area. By joining some of these groups, you'll have the opportunity to meet LOTS of new moms and their children. The majority of homeschool moms are full time stay-at-home moms. More than likely, even if you live in a small town, there are many moms just like you. Moms who have made the choice to be at home full time. I know it can be difficult, meeting new people is just as uncomfortable as an adult as it was when we were kids, but I promise that this really is a very important step in your success.

I'd also like you to consider your online time as well. What blogs do you frequent and do they support this new lifestyle you have chosen? I have only a handful of blogs I visit regularly and all of them are written by women, who are not necessarily stay-at-home moms, but by women that "spend" and "thrift" in ways similar to my family. It's just not going to be very conducive to your lifestyle to follow women on blogs that are "big spenders" and buy all new, high price items. It's just not going to help you grow in the direction you should be growing. 

I know that it seems like so many changes have to be made in order to survive on one income. It's true, much must be done, but it will be so worth all your growing pains!

Don't forget to join me tomorrow for the last of this five part series. I'll wrap it all up for you and you'll be well on your way to success in this new lifestyle. Until tomorrow everyone......


  1. Amy,
    This is very true!! This can be applied to other areas and not just Stay at Home Mom's. To decorating styles, Thrifting, redoing thrift stores items, etc!!!

    I am totally enjoying this Series!!


  2. Debbie, your enthusiasm is just terrific! Thank you so much for your comments today! Have a wonderful week!

  3. Debbie, I recall reading some of this in your past posts about the subject. I felt the need to retire a good ten years before I was actually an official "retiree." We have not lived a lavish lifestyle, by any estimation. It has been scary at times, but we have made it thus far. We did have to make some wiser budget and spending concessions along the way(some that we should have done years before). I hope that we can get some health issues in order so that we can continue to do the things we enjoy and some that we so enjoy and some that we have wanted to do for years. You are very wise to plan ahead, both with a financial and health initiative in mind! Kudos to you and Joe!


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